If your child is being bullied, what will you do? Please bear in mind that your reaction will deeply affect the child. Most of the parents will reaction are:-
- maybe the other child did it un-intentionally.
- did you tell your teacher?
- did you hit/ fight back?
- tell me what what happened in detail
There are various reasons why a child is being bullied. The child might not have any wrong-doing as they were randomly picked. You should not teach your child to fight/ hit back to prove that they are strong. This will only teach them to solve problem using violence and might provoke the bully to take another step further.
Should you teach your child to remain silent to stay safe if other child is being bullied? No, because remain silent doesn’t mean nothing happened and your child might become the next victim. Children who experience or witness bullying should tell a trusted adult. She or he can be a teacher, principal, parent, or a relative.
Should the child just apply for sick-leave to prevent being bullied? Keeping a distance from the bully is correct. However, it will only teach them to run-away when they encounter problems/ obstacles in their live. Parents and teacher should be the child’s pillar of strength.
What parents should do?
Do not force the child to tell the incident. Try to use another method of communication such as messaging, writing or drawing. So that the child won’t feel harm for the second time due to stress.
2. Be patient
Listen to her story and don’t keep asking the child whether she hit/ fight back and tell the teacher. This will makes the child more stress and not willing to tell the truth. Give the child more time to talk slowly and peacefully.
3. Stay Calm
Do not be emotional in front of the child and say will take revenge from the bully eye. The child will feel scared and don’t know what to do when alone.
4. Problem solving
Ask for the child’s opinion whether she need help. If yes, how she wish you (parent) to handle? If no, how she will handle it? Focus on the child’s feelings and reduce his phobia. Guide the child to think.
5. Enlarge her social circle
Accompany your child to create a healthy and harmony social environment such as playground. Monitor her interaction skill and guide her by being a role model. Increate the child’s experience with team work. Let them learn to express their feelings and share their thought.